A Quest Towards Happiness

We, humans, always aftering for happiness. What is happiness exactly? According to Wikipedia, happiness is a state of mind or feeling such as contentment, satisfaction, pleasure, or joy. A variety of philosophical, religious, psychological and biological approaches have been taken to defining happiness and identifying its sources. A state of mind, that means happiness itself doesn't have any form, it's abstract. So why are we, humans, keep aftering for it? Why do we keep aftering something that doesn't even has a form?

A friend of mine, she just broke up with his boyfriend. A friend of her asked her, "are you happy with him?" Then my friend, she couldn't even answer that question. She didn't know how to answer that simple question. She admitted to me, she didn't even know what she felt back then. She only felt that this guy was a good catch. She thought that she found the Mr. Right. The thing that happened to my friend, leads me to a question. Does happiness really exist? That question has been swimming in my mind these last several days. This is like a One Million Dollar question. The question that I barely know the answer.

Lots of people claiming their own form of happiness. They claim, mostly, money and love is their happiness. I think none of them is my form of happiness, those two things are humans basic needs. Humans need money, humans need to be love. Based by the Wiki definition, I only agree with the psychological approaches. Happiness is just a state of mind. It relates to somebodies psychological condition. But for me, that's not a conclusion. I perfectly know we control our own mind. Our mind is a very wonderful thing, it's like our mind is a computer of our daily activities. In fact, not just activities, our mind controls our own universe. Please underline "our own universe", a thing we create, a thing doesn't have concrete form. Why? Why do we keep aftering something that vague? Are we living a fake lives? Or are we just trying too hard to make the surroundings comfortable?

Leo Nikolaevich Tolstoy once said:

Happiness does not depend on outward things, but on the way we see them

Tolstoy acknowledge happiness. Does that mean really exists? I need an answer. That's all.


PS: There's no pun intended in this post. I write it because that question's been swimming in my mind. If there's a reader feels offended, please don't. Trust me!

Spotted Around Jakarta's Pretentious Night Life

Ahahaha.. Sounds like Gossip Girl has infected my mind. Well, it's quiet a chaotically fun for me. After several days of anti-socializing, finally I contacted my wonderful friends. I started my journey this week is on Thursday.
It was one fine evening with wonderful friends. Lots of things need to catch up between us. The day started at Chika's office. I went there with, of course, Chika, Starina, and Edo. But then, Chacha came. After waiting for several hours, we picked Dayu at her office, and then off we went to Pacific Place. The first thing we did (me and Dayu) there was raid Eko and Kiki at Canteen. They were having their late lunch. And after that, Me, Dayu, And Eko went to catch up Chika, Starina, and T'Intan at Gyu Kaku. We went there for our dinner, in fact, it was one quiet pretentious dinner. We ate a lot off Wagyus, tongues, chickens, not to forget; regular beefs, tomatoes, etc.etc. Lol! I consider that as a BIG DINNER. I mean really BIG, even close to HUUUUUGE! Oh, I almost forgot, Dimas and Abeu are catching up with us. Hmmm... Apparently, we didn't satisfy enough with our wonderful quality time. After that big dinner, T'Intan went home. And then we continue our catching up time at this pancake cafe called Pan-O. Well, too bad I already full of those meats I ate at that JapRest. But hey, I always save a room for some desserts! I had several bites of my friend's pancakes! It was better than Pancious anyway. Hmm.. The points are not the foods, but yes, I know that my wonderful friends are... WONDERFUL.
So that was Thursday. How about Saturday? Yes, it was a fine day for me too! I started the day with Mpit. We went to PIM for a lunch date. Listen, it supposed to be just a quick lunch date. But, destiny has another plan for me. In the middle of window shopping/joking around with her, Dayu called. She wanted me to go to Starina's place right away. There was this "pengajian", fo his late dad. So then I went there. Ugh, destiny has another plan for me! After that "pengajian", friends took me to this new Club/Restaurant/Lounge at this newly renovated premium shopping mall in the middle of the city. That place called "Immigrant". Apparently that place is the it lounge for now. But I don't feel like I belong there, since it's too uptight for me. I prefer some place more laid back. Being in that place, it feels like I become the most trendy bi*ch in town, which is not good. After "Immigrant", we had to attend this party at this most famous underground club in town. It was held by Chika's cousin EO. Well, it was a disco night. We spent around 30 mins there, since we feel like too old lately.
Alright, all good things must come to an end. Since it's already sunday morning, I now officially declare that my wonderful week has to be ended. I cross my fingers that next week will be a fine week for me and my friends, because I absolutely know that an end is a new start for something or someone. I only can say, I ♥ (heart not love, because it means bigger) you my dear friends, I really do.


PS: My wonderful week was accompanied by a lovely bag, courtesy of Chika. Want to see the bag? See it here.

Why?

Why break ups are never easy? That question has been swimming in my mind for several weeks. Why I even think about it? Yes, I've been in this phase for this several weeks. But this time, I don't want to talk about my phase. I want to talk about the break ups in general.
Break ups are usually happen between two person, whether they are seeing each other, as a friends or even a married couple. The process usually rough, in fact it really hurts for some people. The hurt usually stays for days, weeks, months, even years! But I really admire people who can overcome with the hurt in a matter of days. That's tough, man! But look, I know things can change as fast as blink of an eye, but life must go on right? If we keep muddle in miserable, life will stay at the same place. Who wants it? Being stuck in a same place really kills. If you don't believe me, try it yourself. I know it's not easy to overcome, just enjoy every single moment. Because one day, the end of your miserable will come. No matter how hard the processes are, happiness are waiting in front of your eyes. The control of your emotion and mind are in your hand, remember?
Hufff... Ok, now I really should finish this off.